When we embark on a healing and transformational journey, all going well, we start to shift.  We feel clearer, more alive and more sensitive to life in the best possible way. Life becomes clearer with a sharper focus. We see things we might not have noticed before.


At the same time, other aspects of our life can become tougher.

Our relationships can become strained; conflicts may arise. We might even wonder what we are doing in that relationship.  We have new perspectives and can see what is not working. We may start to point the finger at our loved ones, pointing out the various ways they are “wrong”.

This can be distressing for all involved

Here are some things I’ve found important to keep in mind to help through this stage – and it is a stage.




Our transformation is not really something we can control.  We can bring ourselves to it, we can commit and show up, but at the end of the day, the sometimes miraculous nature of the shifts are not something we can contrive.  In the face of this, our only true response is gratitude and wonder.

The other side of gratitude is to acknowledge the level of support you have to allow you to make the shifts you have.  I remember one day some years ago, feeling very alone and unsupported, when suddenly my perspective shifted and I saw all that was supporting me every single day. All the people, plants, animals each day to allow me to sit on that bus and be carried home. The food on my table; the farmers, sales assistants, cleaners, the banks. All of it.

I am grateful for all the support I have had in my spiritual journey; it is a privilege to have the time and space to give to that. I’m grateful for my teachers, my classmates and the healers who have assisted me along the way.

It’s important to remember all the people right now supporting you in your journey; there may be more than you think.  Often it’s our loved ones who have supported us the most – through child-care, emotional or financial support, or carrying the load of other things to free our time.


Understanding and compassion

Sometimes when we shift, we are aware of the changes, and how we were prior to the work. But oftentimes, our new state becomes our new normal, and we forget what or experience as life before this.  It’s important to stay conscious of the changes we have made, as we consider our loved ones.

If we’ve been working with a teacher or practitioner, then we are mentored and held through this process.  Or partner, friends and family members don’t always have that same support.  What’s needed here is understanding, patience and love.  Now it’s time to hold the space for our loved ones, not as a practitioner, of course, but as a lover, friend and partner. This is love in action.

Seeing with fresh eyes

So often we get into patterns of relating with the people in our lives that don’t always reflect our best selves.  As we change we can start to look outward in blame. We might experience ourselves freshly, but they haven’t quite made the change.

What if we could allow each other to be different in each moment?  To allow ourselves to meet all in our lives with fresh eyes and heart?  What if we see each other with free hearts? What would be possible then?




Life is an ongoing practice of forgiveness – of our partners and loved ones, and forgiveness of ourselves. We’ve all done the above; we may well continue to do so. Let’s just pick ourselves up, forgive ourselves and each other, and keep walking.

Love in action is not always easy; but it’s worth it.

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